Heavy on this! having a heart that’s constantly yearning to not only give love but receive it return is starting to feel more and more like a prison sentence.
Excuses upon excuses upon excuses!! Can’t you compromise? Can’t you meet me halfway? Why am I always the one giving but never on the receiving end? Girl I felt that line in my bones. I just hope one day, we all find true love
I cried reading this, this is the most raw and beautiful thing i read, that explained so well the way i feel. Thank you for opening your heart to us. I read it so many times. It almost makes me sick reading this because i relate so much. It is painful to read but so worth it. Thank you again!
This is so beautifully written ,Such a raw and honest acknowledgment of your self-awareness.
Not experiencing love, or not even having a clear idea of it, can shape a very different internal definition of what love is supposed to feel like.
One thing I’ve come to learn is that love should never require performance. I truly believe love is a state of being and allowing. A resting in who you are.
When we feel the need to perform, we unknowingly introduce ourselves through that performance. And often, that becomes the version of us people respond to. That’s where the imbalance begins when we’re only seen as the giver.The concept of love is limitless, but to experience it fully, we must be present in ourselves. We have to allow love in not just give it.
I completely understand how not having a healthy example of love conditions the mind to believe that love must be earned, proved, or performed. But I hope, for all of us, that we can start to embrace a quieter kind of love — one where we are enough just by being.
Because the truth is, you cannot keep pouring from an empty cup. And when you try, it only breeds quiet resentment.
We deserve to be poured into too. To feel full. To rest. To just be.
This, truly resonates with me, except that I grew around parents who shared almost everything together.
My parents live like twins, I grew up to admire their friendship. Watching them taught me that marriage, and relationship is not always about love but friendship, trust, companion and then intimacy- where love and affection comes to play.
I pray that we all find a safe place in another's arm, where we get to be just who we are, while stretching to become better versions of us.
Find peace sweetie, you deserve the love you give.
Take some rest if you can, it is very important. But most importantly find ways to love yourself first.
i think it gets to this point. i’ve had some really bad situations and i still keep searching for someone who will just 😭 take me as i am. i hate this idea that you can get to know someone like someone and then as if nothing happened that’s it 😭 u never speak again im soooooo SICK
this feels like you plucked this right out of my brain I feel the exact same way and now somehow I simultaneously can't even imagine being in the kind of relationship I want and can't stop wanting it.
i started this year with exactly this mindset. it's very hard especially when your knee-jerk reaction is to love and try your hardest for someone who couldn't care less.
im trying so hard to not become this again, quitting dating apps as well because let's be honest, it's truly the worst form of dating.
im sad a lot that I'm not loved the way I love but im also not as bad as it would be if i stayed put in my ways.
i loved the way this was written, it really held me.
And just like that, you began loving yourself. You just discovered a new love, one that is not taught. I think that’s the best love you could give yourself.
I feel you deeply on not having seen what's possible. I've seen the worst of the worst of relationships growing up and although I know what not to accept from that, I feel like there's an in between of not truly knowing what a real, loving relationship could look like. It's just not enough to not be what I've witnessed. It's easier for me to not be bothered than be vulnerable enough to try to figure out what that looks like but that's a whole different convo lol.
may all the true yearners experince the love they dream about man seriouslyyyyy i want this for us to bad 😭😭😭😭
we will, because of the love we have, that love equally exists for us as well
Heavy on this! having a heart that’s constantly yearning to not only give love but receive it return is starting to feel more and more like a prison sentence.
We got this pretty girl💕
one day<3
Excuses upon excuses upon excuses!! Can’t you compromise? Can’t you meet me halfway? Why am I always the one giving but never on the receiving end? Girl I felt that line in my bones. I just hope one day, we all find true love
hahaahah reall
Amennn girllll😭❤️❤️❤️
I cried reading this, this is the most raw and beautiful thing i read, that explained so well the way i feel. Thank you for opening your heart to us. I read it so many times. It almost makes me sick reading this because i relate so much. It is painful to read but so worth it. Thank you again!
sending you so much love!!!!! thank you so much for taking the time to read it :)
This is so beautifully written ,Such a raw and honest acknowledgment of your self-awareness.
Not experiencing love, or not even having a clear idea of it, can shape a very different internal definition of what love is supposed to feel like.
One thing I’ve come to learn is that love should never require performance. I truly believe love is a state of being and allowing. A resting in who you are.
When we feel the need to perform, we unknowingly introduce ourselves through that performance. And often, that becomes the version of us people respond to. That’s where the imbalance begins when we’re only seen as the giver.The concept of love is limitless, but to experience it fully, we must be present in ourselves. We have to allow love in not just give it.
I completely understand how not having a healthy example of love conditions the mind to believe that love must be earned, proved, or performed. But I hope, for all of us, that we can start to embrace a quieter kind of love — one where we are enough just by being.
Because the truth is, you cannot keep pouring from an empty cup. And when you try, it only breeds quiet resentment.
We deserve to be poured into too. To feel full. To rest. To just be.
why do expressive and devoted lovers never meet 😭😭😭 fate is so ridiculous
this!!!!!
This, truly resonates with me, except that I grew around parents who shared almost everything together.
My parents live like twins, I grew up to admire their friendship. Watching them taught me that marriage, and relationship is not always about love but friendship, trust, companion and then intimacy- where love and affection comes to play.
I pray that we all find a safe place in another's arm, where we get to be just who we are, while stretching to become better versions of us.
Find peace sweetie, you deserve the love you give.
Take some rest if you can, it is very important. But most importantly find ways to love yourself first.
I love you.
I'm glad that you’ve such wholesome parents. I don't hear about that often on the internet
💛
i think it gets to this point. i’ve had some really bad situations and i still keep searching for someone who will just 😭 take me as i am. i hate this idea that you can get to know someone like someone and then as if nothing happened that’s it 😭 u never speak again im soooooo SICK
no fr! all of the work of getting to know someone on such an intimate level just to never talk again??
this feels like you plucked this right out of my brain I feel the exact same way and now somehow I simultaneously can't even imagine being in the kind of relationship I want and can't stop wanting it.
it’s like you took this from my mind, especially the part about my parents relationship
i started this year with exactly this mindset. it's very hard especially when your knee-jerk reaction is to love and try your hardest for someone who couldn't care less.
im trying so hard to not become this again, quitting dating apps as well because let's be honest, it's truly the worst form of dating.
im sad a lot that I'm not loved the way I love but im also not as bad as it would be if i stayed put in my ways.
i loved the way this was written, it really held me.
this grabbed me by my throat
May all the yearners get fellow yearners 🩷🩷
heyy loves just started posting,I would love your engagement...love y'all❤️❤️
And just like that, you began loving yourself. You just discovered a new love, one that is not taught. I think that’s the best love you could give yourself.
People take, take, and take when you give, give and give. If you want to receive, take instead of give. People value what is difficult to get
Oh I relate to this so much. This made me tear up. You are truly not alone!
Does this mean you’re single…
LOL?
:P
This is so real ngl.
You’re so real for this.
This brought tears to my eyes ngl, your writing is so good.
I feel you deeply on not having seen what's possible. I've seen the worst of the worst of relationships growing up and although I know what not to accept from that, I feel like there's an in between of not truly knowing what a real, loving relationship could look like. It's just not enough to not be what I've witnessed. It's easier for me to not be bothered than be vulnerable enough to try to figure out what that looks like but that's a whole different convo lol.