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LuciaKa's avatar

Thank you for writing this🫶🏾 It feels so good to be reminded that I am not alone in this pain❤️‍🩹

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Anita C's avatar

Thank you so much for writing and sharing this. I felt every word of this deep in my soul. Sending you love 💕💕💕

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SznLuv's avatar

I am genuinely sobbing bro. Gratitude for your divine expression, gratitude for sharing your unique experience. With this one, you’ve set me free too. Infinitely grateful to have stumbled upon this.

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Shay ☆'s avatar

omg thank you so much for the kind words 🫂 thank you for taking the time to read it and I hope you’ll come back to it anytime you get that feeling of being stuck!

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jannie's avatar

this was beautiful and very relatable to my own life. i wish i had to bravery to write about my mother but im not there yet. i loved this shay - i am speechless.

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Nyashadzashe Ruby's avatar

You articulated the thoughts I’ve been having recently so perfectly. This is such a touching piece. Unfortunately, I heavily relate to this

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inconnu's avatar

I can kind of relate to this, except I think its the other way around. my mum definitely wishes I liked her and I wish she loved me. I don’t grieve it because to me, this has been the reality since I came out the womb, its hard to grieve what you’ve never known. I want to say one day you’ll make peace with it but idk u to make that conclusion.

I hope it gets easier for u.

Thank you sm for sharing, this was beautiful 🫶🏾

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Adia Ayanna 🐞's avatar

I see you 🩷❤️‍🩹 it’s so heavy understanding we didn’t get the motherly love we wanted, while also knowing our mothers have their own unspoken pain 🌻

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Valor Diaspora Media Group's avatar

Amazing 🥲 you are beautiful

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irene 美麗's avatar

this was so incredibly profound. i know this same grief and i hope that someday soon you’ll be free from it ❤️‍🩹

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Amy's avatar

This is so tender and honest. Our relationships with our mothers are so complex, painful, and raw. Thank you for sharing. With you. <3

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D’Mya McCray.'s avatar

So, hey boo. You didn’t hold my hand.

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Lu's avatar

Almost cried reading the last part. It truly resonated 🤍

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Nzinga Star's avatar

Thank you for writing this. I had no idea other girls felt the same way about their mothers. Thanks for creating a safe space for us all to meet and see reflections of ourselves.

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cee's avatar

seeing this right after having an argument about all the reasons i fall short in comparison to everyone else's kids she knows a few days ago and now traversing through what has now been a few days of silence. it hurts. it really, really does. i see your pain in mine. i just want her to love me because she loves me, not because i managed to scrape my way towards the first tier of her approval. i wish my mother liked me, too. i really, really do.

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THE A LIST's avatar

Giving you a long, quiet hug.

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Mahagoni's avatar

unfortunately this is very relatable. sending you love 🖤

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