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bobbie's avatar

wow, an echo of how I felt becoming a 1st gen grad some yrs ago. They’ll surround you when the work is done, but rarely are they apt to create a balanced environment for you to achieve your goals— they’ll actually make it harder/impossible at times. Still you persevered, Congrats on your achievements🍰

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Mariam O's avatar

I love you so much and I am so incredibly proud of you!! You have such a wonderful way with words that is incredibly captivating! I’m proud of all your accomplishments and achievements! You are a star and will continue to shine!

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Irene💕☆'s avatar

I dread graduation. I love this!

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Mini's avatar

Firstly congratulations on your graduation ❤️❤️ thank you for sharing your words with us, your feelings

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Sadi's avatar

The most talented writer I know!!! Always proud of you and forever inspired by you and your words <3

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Emily Chue's avatar

Should Narcissistic Grandparents Be Kept Away From Kids?

5 false myths, and 12 serious concerns.

One of the most confusing and difficult issues many adult children of narcissistic parents face is how to navigate the relationship between our children and our parents.

Even after identifying the dysfunction in our parents and acknowledging the neglect and abuse we grew up with, we may make misguided assumptions about our parents as grandparents that can have serious consequences for ourselves and our children.

5 False Assumptions About Narcissistic Grandparents

1. My parents will be better with my child(ren) than they were with me. The idea that our narcissistic parents will care about our kids more or treat them better than they did us is a form of wishful thinking that reflects underlying self-blame for our parents’ deficiencies. It is common for adult children to continue to carry the belief, consciously or unconsciously, that we are inherently unlovable and at fault for the ways our parents harmed us. We may think that our kids will elicit the love from our parents that we could not. Every child is lovable and deserving of nurturance and protection. People who are narcissistic do not care about....

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chidera's avatar

what a lovely piece. graduated two weeks ago and couldn’t have worded it better. i kept wondering why it was dread i felt instead of excitement. then the day came and they made me understand why. this degree couldn’t have been finished without my chosen family. i owe it all to them.

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Bresinterlude's avatar

Congratulations on graduating💕 This feeling is so real

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Mari's avatar

Congratssssss

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Eso🌀's avatar

Never stop writing shay

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Sasha's avatar

Congratulations on your graduation. I understand your feeling. Life is a tough journey and you are doing amazing

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Ekemini’s Expressions's avatar

you deserve everything and more, i don’t know you but i’m proud of you for fighting through it all, congratulations on your graduation!🤎

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dorkynabs's avatar

this is so real, you earned every bit of this. congrats and all the best ahead 🫶

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moe (they/them)'s avatar

congrats on graduating. you’re a light & you’re doing amazing.

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Shanira's avatar

Congratulations on graduating, this is your path so own it! Wherever you may go, bloom with grace🫶

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